Bible Study March 3, 2021
How To Move From Victim To Victor
Synopsis of Bible Study 3/3/21
Delivered by Pastor Lee Bynum, MDiv.
Text: 1 Corinthians 15:57 NKJV 57 But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
I. INTRODUCTION
This world is full of people with a victim mentality. In a sense, they are enslaved. The way we look at the world is based on how the world reacts to us. What we look for in life, is what we find. When you finish moaning about life, do you feel empowered or disempowered? You can look up or you can get up! Some people complain all their lives because they enjoy complaining. You can develop a victim mentality. A victim mentality is a mindset. To have a Victim Mentality, you are a person that views themself as a victim. This type of person accuses everyone of causing their dilemma. A Victor Mentality is one that sees him or herself coming out of their situation. They do not make excuses or linger over things that have happened in their lives before. You have got to move on to a place where you become a victor. Will you put your energy into something positive, or will you linger around the victim story?
II. THREE TYPES OF VICTIMS
1. Martyr Victim – This is the person who solely feels sorry for themselves. They feel like they will be elevated if they victimized.
2. Arrogant Inferior Victim – This type of victim cuts others down, so that they can feel better about themselves.
3. Arrogant Super Victim – This type of victim is one that thinks they are more significant than the problem. They think everyone is beneath them.
III. THE ROMANTIZITIAN OF VICTIMIZATION
1. Why Is It Easier? The reason it is easier for some people to play a victim is because playing the victim is the path of least resistance for them. Additionally, some victims will find other victims to hang with.
2. Once you snap out of the state of being a victim, your crowds change. Misery loves company.
3. Many who live the victim role do not realize how it affects others. When you play the role of a victim, your issues really effect the people that are around you.
§ Own Your Trauma, Do Not Dump Your Drama
§ When you own your drama, you will not be likely to dump it onto others. Name the trauma, come to grips with the entire story, and find a therapist to help you work through it.
§ Find a professional to help you sort through your issues. You do not have to expose all this stuff on your social media page. This is often how people are able to better target you.
§ Eventually, you are going to have to snap out of it! You must snap out of this Victim Mentality.
IV. SEVEN SIGNS OF A VICTIM MENTALITY
1. No Responsibility – Victims take no responsibility for the situations they find themselves in. We must be willing to find out what role we played into our problem.
2. Living A Frozen Life – At this point, the victim is at the mercy of everyone and everything around them.
- Ask them why they are stagnant, and they will give you a laundry list of reasons and they will tell you that its mostly the fault of others.
- A large part of this is holding grudges. We have got to get to a place, where we realize that you cannot hold on to grudges. Grudges will make you a victim.
- Some people take on the role of being a victim because they like the attention.
3. Permanent Self-Pity – This victim has a habit of pitying themselves like a defenseless child that cannot take care of itself.
4. Constant Comparison – This type of victim compares themselves to others in a negative way. A victim will complain about everything, and never count their blessings.
5. Critical – This type of victim is extremely critical. They find something negative in any and everything.
6. Believe They Are Perfect – They suddenly think they are perfect. They think everyone has done them wrong.
7. Easily Cut People Out – They are highly emotional. They cut people out of their lives at the drop of a hat.
V. BIBLICAL EXAMPLES
1. Lessons From The Life Of Hannah –
2. Hannah felt like she was a victim. She had a problem and went directly to the Lord about it. Hannah was Elkanah’s first wife; after they had been married for ten years, he also took Peninnah.
3. Peninnah was mocking Hannah, because she couldn’t have any children. This hurt Hannah tremendously. She decided to take her burden to God in faith.
4. When we are faced with greatest trail, we need to do like Hannah and go to the Lord! She realized something. Hanna realizes that she could stay in her dilemma or go to God about it.
VI. Lessons From The Life Of Leah
1. Leah was rejected by Jacob. She was presented to Jacob to marry, be he wanted Rachael. Jacob works 7 yrs. to get Rachael’s hand in marriage and finds out that Leah had been placed in his tent instead. Jacob wanted Rachael so bad, he works an additional 7 yrs. for her. This hurt Leah.
2. Leah was unappreciated and started having babies for someone that does not even want her. Each baby was named based on her emotional state.
- Leah’s first son was named Reuben which meant “to see”.
- The second son was called Simeon which meant, “God hath heard that I was hated”.
- The 3rd son was named Levi, which meant, “because I have given my husband a third son, he will live with me now”.
- Finally, she had a 4th son and called him Judah which means, “Praise”. Leah finally realized that she needed to go to God with her issues.
3. It is so convenient to be a victim. Being a Victor can only happen if Christ is at the center. When you decide to be a victorious Christian with God at the center, you have realized that you can only get there by Him.
§ CHARACTERISTICS OF A CHRIST-CENTERED VICTORIOUS LIFE
VII. Fear Does Not Defeat
1. Psalm 112:6-8 NKJV 6 Surely he will never be shaken; The righteous will be in everlasting remembrance. 7 He will not be afraid of evil tidings; His heart is steadfast, trusting in the LORD. 8 His heart is established; He will not be afraid, Until he sees his desire upon his enemies. – Victors lives in confidence and are secure. When the world becomes dark, he looks for the light.
2. A Victor knows how to trust God. We must change our narrative. Trust God no matter how bad it may seem.
§ Flint-Focused
§ Isaiah 50:7 NKJV 7“For the Lord GOD will help Me; Therefore I will not be disgraced; Therefore I have set My face like a flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed. – This means we need to be laser focused between God and our goals.
§ We need to be humble, hardworking, and striving in excellence.
§ Guards Their Associations
§ Romans 8:14 NKJV 14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
§ James 4:3-4 NKJV 3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures. 4 Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
§ 1 Corinthians 8:3 NKJV 3 But if anyone loves God, this one is known by Him.
§ Celebrates God’s Word
§ I know God’s word has value. When you celebrate God’s word, you operate in love.
§ A Victim thinks the whole world is against them. A Victor sees things as a challenge.
§ A Victor makes do with what he or she has, but a Victim looks for the handout.
§ What are you going to be? Will you be a Victim or Victor? This is a mindset. Learn who you are.
§ How long will you allow yourself to be a victim? When will you make a switch?
§ Hold your head up. Do not walk through this life with your soul cast down.
Stay Informed.
Stay Safe.
Be Encouraged!
